The List....

I am in the most wonderful book club known to man. They are some of the most dynamic, interesting, funny, amazing women I have ever known. I could not love this club more.

So over our five years together we have dated, loved, broken up, gotten back together with and loathed several different men. When we began we were all mostly single, and now in the 5th year we have two engaged, one happy live in couple, and one happy (serious) long distance couple. I could not be happier for these queens, they deserve every bit of the love and adoration they are receiving. However you can't sit at table with these successful at love ladies and not wonder how it is that you are so, so very, very unsuccessful in the same arena.

So when they said to me that I needed to create a list of all the qualities that I am seeking in a man. I listened. These ladies clearly know what they are talking about and I want to get like them.

Here goes...the list (in no particular order, stream of consciousness sort of way):

1. Be a man of your word
2. Be unafraid and willing to make simple decisions (what we eat, where we go for an evening)
3. Be eager to include me in your life
4. Be a Jehovah's Witness, or be comfortable and supportive of me being a Jehovah's Witness, and have your own relationship with God
5. Love travel
6. Love 'new' (new places, people, food, wine, electronics, cars, etc)
7. Be indifferent or non-desirous of children
8. Love to dance and music of various genres
9. Be ambitious
10. Be able to prioritize
11. Be sincere
12. Love football and the Lakers
13. Be aware and interested in current events, your community, the world outside of yourself
14. Be charismatic, know how to work a room without me, but still look forward to meeting up with me at the end of the night
15. Understand the principle of headship-lead/guide not berate/demand
16. Respect my mind, intellect, and abilities
17. Seek out my ideas and desires
18. Be my best friend
19. Be funny, we should be the comedy duo that gets invited to all dinner parties for our witty banter
20. Be considerate of my feelings
21. Be a listener
22. Be a communicator
23. Be empathetic
24. Have a passion
25. Have stamina, fortitude, a backbone
26. Be able to articulate a clear point of view
27. Reciprocate

I think thats it. 27 things, some of them redundant or alternate ways of saying the same thing. So really I'm looking for 20 or less things in the next man. I guess that means I'm easy like I always thought I was.

So now that I've written it...I guess I should refer to it when I meet someone, and alter or compare as necessary.

I want a husband. Not tomorrow, but eventually, and this is who I want him to be. I just have to continue to work on these same traits within myself.